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Saturday, October 29, 2011

New Blog located at www.TheModernMe.wordpress.com

Thank you for visiting my blog featuring articles on fitness, fashion, nutrition, health and general life lessons.  My blog is now located at http://www.themodernme.wordpress.com/  I hope you will join me there.  If you have a blog I have not already subscribed to please send the link my way.  I am always looking for new and interesting people to follow and would enjoy reading your work.

Be well!

Kim Miller

Monday, October 3, 2011

A Love Affair with Food: Ways to Enjoy Treats While Still Maintaining Your Weight Loss Goals

I recently asked the question, "What is the greatest barrier to losing weight?" The answer was, "I love food way too much."  It's natural that we tend to love food.  We live in a culture where food is a focus, and often times, not in a healthy way.  The rise of fast food chains, quick and easy on-the-go meals, and inexpensive ways to manufacture food drives our economy.  Let's face it, in many aspects food is vehicle for creating community.  Much of what we do is centered around food, and not participating often makes us feel left out. 

How then do we change our relationship with food in order to better care for ourselves without giving up that sense of comfort and enjoyment.  The answer lies in balancing what we eat by simplifying our choices 80% of the time.


Indulgences are necessary for some people.  If you are one of these people, allow yourself the right to do that.  More importantly though, don't focus on these occasional moments, focus on what you eat the majority of the time to determine if you are really going to be successful in your weight loss goals.  The simpler you eat during your non-cheat moments, the better off you will be.  Here are ten tips you might consider in order to help you find balance in your food choices:

1) Sandwiches: Skip the cheese.  If you enjoy cheese save those slices and pair them with almonds and an apple for a snack later in the day.

2) Hamburgers: Add vegetables such as lettuce, onions and tomato but skip the ketchup which can add sugar to your diet.

3) Flavored waters: Pass on the additives you dump in your drinks.  Instead, add your own lemon or cucumber for a naturally refreshing drink.

4) Nuts: Stay away from the bags that add salt and opt for non-salted options.  Better yet, pick non-salted nuts in their raw form rather than the dry roasted brands (which often contain added oil).

5) Coffee: Try adding soy milk or almond milk as coffee creamer rather than half and half and flavored creamers. 

6) Pancakes and Waffles: Skip the syrups high in sugar.  Add fresh fruit to sweeten the taste.

7) Vegetables: Veggies should be eaten in their raw form.  If you are dipping carrots in ranch dressing consider that your treat.  The same goes for adding cheese to broccoli, mayonnaise to artichokes, and butter to corn.  The more you eat it plain, the less you will crave the toppings.

8) Oatmeal: Buy oatmeal in the form of plain oats or steel cut oats.  The prepackaged options may look healthy but they often contain additives.  This goes back to understanding and reading the ingredients carefully. 

9) Pasta: Avoid marinara sauce which can be high in sugar and add unnecessary calories.  Try adding fresh tomatoes and basil instead.  For moisture, you can spritz a bit of pure olive oil to provide you with a healthy serving of fat.

10) Brown rice: Skip the soy sauce.  Soy sauce is off the charts when it comes to sodium.  Try mixing vegetables in for added flavor.

Ensure that you follow the "simple is better" rule 80 percent of the time when it comes to eating.    What you do EVERYDAY is more important than what you do once in a while!  So concentrate on making good decisions every day and this will allow you to a treat of your choice once in a while!

Monday, September 26, 2011

Eating Clean: A Place to Start


Breakfast: Plain Greek yogurt, blueberries
raspberries, cashews, 1 pack of truvia


There are so many healthy eating tips out there it is hard to know where to make changes in your diet.  Eating clean is a great place to start. A little research quickly reveals that there are several different definitions for what eating clean really means.  When I personally talk about eating clean it means sticking with whole foods in their most natural form as much as possible and avoiding added chemicals, sugars, added sodium and unnatural ingredients.    


Here's an example of the types of food I eat regularly:

Lunch: Steel cut oats, egg whites,
red peppers, mushrooms
Whole Grains: quinoa, brown rice, barely, steel cut oats
Vegetables: Sweet potatoes, green beans, broccoli, asparagus, mushrooms, tomatoes, cauliflower, spinach, bell peppers
Fruits: (whenever possible opting for those low in sugar) blueberries, raspberries, blackberries, pears, apples, bananas 
Lean Proteins: Ground turkey, chicken, egg whites, fish
Healthy fats: unsalted nuts, avocado, olive oil, salmon

Dinner: Sweet potato, lean ground
turkey, low fat cottage cheese

In addition to eating clean, I am also an advocate for drinking clean!  Often times we consume a lot of unnecessary chemicals in the form of liquid, which detracts from the amount of water we consume.  Water is essential for our health and helps with our metabolism, so it's important we consume enough every day.  If you like to sip on things, try a smoothie for lunch made with fresh blueberries, raspberries, ice, plain Greek yogurt, a banana and honey.

The most important thing you can do when you are changing your diet is to pay attention to you body.  While one person might react adversely to dairy, others may tolerate it well.  Pay attention to how you feel after you eat certain foods.  The foods above are an excellent starting point to construct your daily eating plan. Combining these food groups within each meal will give you the healthy balance of nutrition you need to fuel yourself through the day.

One of my favorite sites to find recipes on eating clean is http://eatingcleanrecipes.com/  If you have recipes you like or other sites you frequent for ideas, feel free to share them.  Happy eating!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

From the Ground Up: Five Qualities to Build Your Fitness Foundation

I'm an avid reader when it comes to fitness and nutrition.  I enjoy many "how to" articles that gives strategies on getting fit, loosing weight and staying healthy.  However, I often think there is an element of fitness being ignored. Beyond just understanding topics such as how to work out and what to eat, there is a deeper level we must strive to understand.  How do we change our mindset and develop a foundation for creating a healthy lifestyle?  Like building a house, you start from the base. You can't put a roof on something without the foundation from which to build. 

How does one build the foundation for fitness then? A good place to start would be to look at what fit, healthy, balanced people do. Across the board, I found there are certain characteristics these people share.  

1. They make fitness and healthy living a priority.  
It's easy to forget about ourselves in the game of life. This is particularly true for those of us who are caretakers and moms. We are taught to give all of ourselves and often times that makes us feel worthy. While admirable, those who have mastered fitness and health as a way of life seem to recognize that in order to best serve others; they need to care for themselves first. This requires spending some time every day on self-improvement. Just as sleep, family and work are priorities, so is fitness. They find creative ways to incorporate it, encourage others to participate and embrace a lifestyle that promotes balance. They make "we" time but also make "me" time.  This isn't always easy, but it seems to be essential as a base for achieving healthy living.

2. They are mindful.
This can be a confusing concept. I know this because for years I couldn’t really wrap myself around what it meant to be mindful. I think all the time, sometimes too much. Does that make me mindful, apparently not. To be truly mindful you need to connect your inner voice with your outer actions. It's the mind/body connection that creates this.  How does mindfulness play into fitness then?  Let's consider this; how many people do you know who work out all the time but never achieve their fitness goals?  There are a lot. 

The answer to this is thinking very hard about what you are doing while you are doing it.  Quiet your mind to all the other things in life and pay attention to your body. When you lift weights, do you notice the way it makes your muscles feel? When you run, do you pay attention to your breathing, how hard you have to push yourself, when to back off, when have you rested enough and should be quickening your pace?  When you sit in yoga class do you go through the moves or do you feel the pull of your body, think about every part of you and what it is doing, let everything else go and simply be in that moment? When you do the simplest of moves, like a sit-up, do you rush through without engaging your muscles or do you pay careful attention to making every contraction of your body count? This is what turns a 15 minute workout into something powerful.

 3.  They are confident.
Generally fit and well-adjusted people exude a unique confidence.  Confidence comes from believing in yourself. You have to believe you are worthy and important. You deserve this. The best way to find this is to start by changing the voice in your head. What does it say to you?  Do you wake up and think to yourself, “I am beautiful”?  I am important and have valuable things to share with the world”? Start there and listen to your self-talk and if you notice it is not positive then change it.  Say something positive about yourself out loud.

Beyond telling yourself positive words of affirmation, begin to tell other people. Find the things you admire in others and let them know. Self-confidence is not just about seeing yourself as beautiful and worthy; it's also about seeing that in others. When you can begin to celebrate others successes and achievements very genuinely, you can also begin to celebrate your own. 

4.  They have passion.
Passion fuels action. I always think about those around me who are good at what they do, but they really don't love it. It's the love for something you do that makes you great at it.  Find a fitness activity you are passionate about, and spend time working on it. In his blog, photographer, writer and public speaker James Patrick often asks his clients, would you rather have passion or talent? Both can lead you to success, but only one can keep you there. http://jamesmpatrick.com/blog/marketing/passion-versus-talent-which-would-you-rather-have/ Passion is what drives us and makes us want to do it better. Develop the passion for something active, anything, and work on becoming better at it. 

5. They seek support.
People often succeed in groups surround by others who support them. Pick up any self-help book and you are likely to find a chapter about building a network of strong healthy relationships. These are what allow us to get through difficult times. One resolution I always keep is to have at least three people in my life I'd drop everything for if they truly needed me. 
You should not only be that person for someone, but have people who serve as that for you. You get what you give. Give others support and you will be surprised how they reciprocate. Giving support doesn't always have to be with your time.  It can be kind words of affirmation, small tokens of affection. Don't underestimate the value of the smallest thoughtful gesture; those are sometimes the most meaningful. 

When we develop a support network in our fitness world, we surround ourselves with like-minded people. Those who value what we are trying to accomplish.
Your quest for health and fitness may be a big change for you. As such you could be met with resistance and unforeseen obstacles. At that point, you really have to decide which relationships to keep and which to let go. Carefully choose from whom you will draw your energy. Let people know about your goals and seek out support networks. Surround yourself by people who believe in you.


Fitness is a journey.  It’s something we re-make over time and continually strive toward. Even the people I most admire in the fitness world have goals they work toward. Whether you are starting from the beginning, or well on your way to achieving health, keeping the principles of balance, mindfulness, confidence, passion and support can help you along the way. Take the time to build the foundation because that is what will support you in the long run.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Building a Fitness Accountability Group


Holding me accountable, my long-time friend and mentor Tanya
PF Changs Rock and Roll Marathon, 2011
 
How can we find ways to maintain fitness? Are there cost effective strategies to ensure we keep fitness a priority in our lives? I recently polled a number of women and asked what motivates them to go to the gym. I also asked them they would hire a trainer? By far, the answer was accountability. They stated they were motivated because they are paying a trainer who expects them to show up. That made a lot of sense to me. When I was working to get back in shape a trainer wasn't in the budget, but I always went to classes at my local gym. I got to know many of the girls in class, as well as the instructor, and when I didn't show up… people noticed. That motivated me to keep going.

 That begs the question, what can you do to stay motivated without hiring a trainer? My suggestion is to form a fitness accountability group. What's that? An accountability group is a group of people who serve to motivate you and hold you accountable for your time and effort. This idea can be adapted to any goal or profession.

Here are the steps to developing a successful accountability group.

1) Identify other individuals who might benefit from, or be interested in, joining the accountability group: Who has similar fitness interests as you do? Think outside the box and invite neighbors, members of your local moms groups, people from work who share your schedule, friends, parents from your child's class at school, Facebook contacts who live nearby, people you meet at social activities, teachers, and family members.

2) Contact a handful of people and present the idea: If you are shy, this can be tough. Keep this in mind as you go: The best way to make friends is by bringing people together; some of the most fulfilling experiences in life come from making friends. Pulling a group together can not only help you stay fit, but can also build lasting friendships. People like to be around motivated individuals, so put your goals out there for others. The simple fact of you saying, “I care enough to do this, and I'd like you to join me,” might be enough to encourage people to participate.

3) Come together: Set up a time to meet and establish the group's goals. Have each person identify their personal fitness interests and goals, and come prepared with a list of ideas on how to get in shape. Pick a few activities that work for the majority of the group and develop an implementation plan. Here are a few suggestions:

A) Online or at-home workout video series (e.g., P90X) http://www.beachbody.com/
B) Mall walking
C) Running at a local high school
D) Classes at gyms and local studios (e.g., pilates, kickboxing, yoga)
E) Swimming
F) Hiking, biking, or other outdoor activities
G) Tennis

4) Put together a schedule: Decide how often the group will meet. Assign each member a time when they are in charge of planning a fitness event. That member is responsible for arranging logistics, and sending out the event details as the date draws near.  Using evite http://www.evite.com/ as a way to facilitate this is one option.

5) Establish an online forum to hold each other accountable: One of the most motivating things in my fitness world is an online Facebook group of like-minded fitness people who post regularly. Although there are days when my inbox fills up with their messages, they are always inspiring. Encourage members to post their workouts and other thoughts that help motivate people in the group. This is also a great way to pose fitness questions, generate dialogue, and share information.

6) Plan time for fun! Bring the group together from time to time outside of your planned fitness activities. Remember, this group should serve not only to keep you accountable, but also to motivate you to do your best. Consider signing your group up for local, fitness-related charity events or volunteer activities. For example, a women's accountability group that runs regularly might consider sponsoring a girl through the organization, Girl's On The Run (http://www.girlsontherun.org/) for their December race. What a great way to be fitness-minded while giving back to the community!

Remember, there are a lot of ways to get in shape and stay there! Going to the gym with a trainer is one, but try and think outside the box on ways you can stay motivated and be held accountable. Most important, remember that what you do every day is more important than what you do occasionally, so incorporating fitness motivation and accountability on a daily basis will go a long way toward successfully meeting your goals.

If you have a good example of a fitness accountability group that works for you, I'd love for you to share it!



Monday, September 12, 2011

In Search of Mentors

We all know the value of a good mentor.  What we forget is that a mentoring relationship doesn't just happen.  A lucky few might find one that just falls in their lap.  If not, you better go out and look for one!

How?  That's a good question.  I remember my days advising students who would say I really don't have a mentor.  I'd offer that they ought to get one, and a good way to start is by looking around at the people you know.  Who would you like to emulate?  Who do you admire? 

Find someone who fits the profile and study what that person does.  Ask the question, "How did you get there?"  Listen closely to the answer.  Sometimes the most effective way to start a relationship is simply by saying, "I admire and respect you.  I'd like to learn from you".  Most people who are told this are flattered.  Many have a desire to share their knowledge, and here is their opportunity. 

Surround yourself with a handful of people you admire.  As your relationships develop, your mentors will likely offer you advice.  Take it!  Do something with it.  One rule I live by that never really fails me is that if enough people you trust are telling you that you ought to do something, you should do it.  Why is this hard?  I don't know.  I don't always follow this advice myself, but I keep the rule and do my best to remember it on a regular basis.

If you consider yourself to be "the best" at something and have a hard time finding someone to emulate, you're not looking hard enough.  The minute you see things from that perspective, you lose the ability to improve.  You lose your edge.  Even the most successful people can point to someone they look up to and from whom to learn.

Find the person who meets your needs.  Don't limit yourself to one; find at a few, particularly if you have a variety of goals.  Maybe you aim to get in shape, advance your career, raise a family, take on a new hobby, or improve your image.  Every one of these goals becomes more obtainable when you find people to emulate and from who to learn.

I think about the people I've mentored over the years and so many of them have gone on to have fabulous success in a number of areas of their life.  These people have reached success far beyond what I consider obtainable for myself.  That's what a good mentor does. They teach the student how to grow until which point they begin to teach you.

Monday, September 5, 2011

The Competition Diet - A Personal Journey of Lessons Learned

I'm the first to tell people how making changes toward a healthier lifestyle can better them.  I did it first hand but its like childbirth, once you've done it you forget how hard some of those moments were.  I was reminded of those challenges over the past 6 weeks when I decided to participate in a fitness competition.  I knew the required diet was rigid but I figured I eat clean, I don't eat a lot, how hard it could be?  Harder than I thought, and not for the reasons I suspected.
I received the diet and it listed exactly what foods to eat each day and the order in which I should eat them. There are about 15 foods on this diet.  I eat them day in and day out.  Almost everything on the diet  is a "one-ingredient" food.  I eat things like quinoa, egg whites, mushrooms, oats, salmon, broccoli, lean ground turkey, apples, chicken, brown rice, green beans and nuts. Six weeks and counting and here is what I've learned.

Week 1: I clearly need to spend a little more time preparing food.  Life is beginning to revolve around eating.  I am hungry all the time and since many of these things are hard to eat while out and about, I feel like I am running back home to eat constantly.  I spend a Monday afternoon preparing, measuring, and bagging all the food I'll need for the week, as to insure I don't find myself in a bind without what I need. Lesson Learned: Pay it forward - a little preparation can simplify your life, making it much more manageable in the long run.

Week 2: I am already growing tired of the diet.  I've had a hard week and I am dying for frozen yogurt, or red wine, or both!  My kids sit in front of me eating a treat while I choke down plain ground turkey, green beans, and quinoa.  I finish and am left with a terribly unsatisfying feeling. Am I feeding my body what it needs?  I've gotten so good at that over the years.  Is this really a healthy life-style? I decide this will only last four months and I will stick it through.  As I watch the kids eating their yogurts, I literally find myself breathing through my urge to eat more, to eat anything other than what's on my diet.  Let it pass, I tell myself, and I go for a walk.  As I do, the urge slowly goes away. Lesson Learned: Sometimes you have to give yourself  time for the urge to pass: the urge to eat more than you might need, to eat something you know you shouldn't, to stop working out sooner than you planned because your tired, even the urge to munch on your kid's leftovers after dinner.  The urge will often come, and if can distract yourself long enough, it will go. 
Week 3: I'm still having moments where I have to talk myself down but not nearly as many.  The desire to eat a lot of things I previously ate and loved, like hummus, Kashi Go Lean, protein bars and watermelon is slowly going away.  These are all good foods but they are not on this diet, so they will not come near my lips...period.  Everyone I know asks me how competition training is going. It reminds me to stick to the program.  I never would have had the will-power to do this before, but I have a specific goal in mind.  Lesson Learned: Setting  a specific goal (e.g. a fitness competition, a race, a weight lose challenge with friends, a 30 day yoga cleanse) makes it much easier to endure something and succeed. Telling people you are pursuing a goal and that they should hold you accountable to stick with it helps you achieve your goal.
Week 4: I'm not feeling right.  Apparently rigorously following this diet has worked to lean me down to extremely low levels.  On the other hand, it's also left me feeling depleted.  I am craving fat like I never imagined.  All I want to do is eat nuts.  I visit trainer Scott and tell him this just does not seem right.  He takes one look at me, checks my body fat and agrees.  He adds more fat to my diet.  I'm hoping this makes me feel more alive, brings my color back, improves my skin tone and texture.  All things I felt where going downhill.  I have to be very lean for competition, but I certainly don't need to get any leaner at this point with over three months to go. Lesson Learned: While you should take the advice of the experts, you should not blindly follow.  Listen to your body.  You know yourself best. 
Week 5: I wake up in the morning and cannot wait to eat egg whites and mushrooms.  I've never liked mushrooms.  I forced myself to start eating them as they were one of only 4 vegetables on the competition diet.  I'm also find myself savoring the taste of sweet potatoes, salmon, and cashews, some of my favorite foods on the diet.  I might not have chosen these foods all that often before but now I've learned to love them. Sometimes when you try foods enough times, they grow on you. Lesson Learned: Giving things up more fully allows you to appreciate other things you might not have previously. 
Week 6: I'm doing well on the eating plan.  Thinking back six weeks ago, I remember how far away the competition was and wondered how I would possibly make it 4 months.  I looked at the end goal, rather than the goal of making it to the next day.  I tried to change my mind set and start taking things one step at a time.  Now I am beginning to feel like this is completely doable.    Lesson Learned:  Don't be overwhelmed thinking about all the things you need to do in order to achieve your goals, whether it be weight loss, or anything else you want to accomplish.  Take it one step at a time, go day by day.  You'll be surprised at how much you can achieve by doing this.
    

Sunday, August 28, 2011

From Dull to Diva: Fashion Tips for the Everyday Woman

I affectionately refer to my 30's as the "Diva" years.  I've been fortunate to work for an amazing boutique in Scottsdale named Divalicious for the past 5 years.  This job has done wonders for my sense of style, helped me figure out exactly what I like, and how to pull it together.  The best part of my job is that it hasn't just been about defining my style, but helping other women find their own personal style.  Style is an interesting thing, it differs from fashion.  Fashion is about trends, about what's hot at the moment.  Style is individual, it's about what works on you.  Finding your style takes time, but once you have it mastered, it makes shopping and getting ready in the morning a whole lot easier.

I'm constantly surprised by the number of women who shop and say they can't "pull off" a certain style.  I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm too short, I'm too broad, my chest is too flat, my boobs are too big, it goes on and on.  I often wish some of these women could see themselves through my eyes.  No matter who walks through the door, there are always things that will look good on them.  I am lucky to work in a place with such diverse cuts and styles.  Pulling off a style has more to do with confidence that anything else.  Although there are always going to be looks that work better on certain people, don't sell yourself short when it comes to fashion.  If you like it, there is almost always a way to make it work.  I'm by no means advocating that we all run around in daisy dukes.  However, as women we ought to embrace our inner beauty and give things a try.  Take a fashion risk.  Try on a color you've never worn, a cut that's new for you.  You might be surprised at the reaction you get.  Don't be afraid to stand out a little!

So onto the business of making fashion work.  For this blog, we'll talk tips and hopefully give you some ideas for the next time you are shopping.

1) Accessorize. 
The beauty of accessories is that you never grow out of them.  Accessories make the outfit!  I guarantee if you don't typically wear jewelery and you start, people will notice.  If you tend to shy away from accessories start small.  Add a watch, a simple necklace, earrings that are not diamond studs, a bright colored handbag.  Try buying your accessories when you buy your clothing.  It will work with the outfits you just purchased, and if you like it, will likely work with plenty of other things you have in your closet.

2) Incorporate a few bold pieces.
Animal prints, faux leather, fur, bright colors, embellished hats, a scarf tied around your handbag, heels, patterned scarfs.  If you are a person that likes basics, this is a great way to add style to your wardrobe.  The investment is minimal and it helps you make a statement.  If you are on a budget and like some of the higher end styles, try shopping in the juniors department.  They often have reasonably prices items that follow similar cuts and lines.

3) Shop trends but don't buy every one you see.
I am a firm believer in following fashion trends.  Incorporating a few of these pieces makes a statement.  Keep in mind, however, that you can't always showcase every trend, nor do you want to.  While something might look good on the runway, it doesn't necessarily mean it looks good in real life.

4) Shop with a friend.
I'm surprised that I'm suggesting this because I typically prefer to shop alone.  However, I came up with this exercise and I think it's worth while.  Pick a friend you trust; someone that makes you feel good and whose taste you respect. Make a shopping date and agree that you will pick at least 5 outfits for the other person you think they will look on them.  The rule - like it or not, you must try it on!  The benefit is that often people see things in you that you don't see in yourself.  You might stumble across something you would have never tried on, but really love.  I've been helping women shop for several years now.  I frequently ask them to try on things they would never pick out.  More often then not, they love the item and end up buying it.

5) Create a style journal.
Putting together "looks" can be very difficult.  I've taken to keeping a style journal.  It's a 3-ring binder with page holders. For my last birthday I asked for subscriptions to many of the fashion magazines.  I carry them in my purse when I am out and about (doctor's offices, the school pick-up line, etc.) and when I have a moment I scan through them.  Whenever I like an outfit I pull it out and add it to the style binder.  Before I shop I review the binder and try to buy pieces that are similar to the outfit.  My last purchase was a pair of jeans which I rolled at the bottom, wedges, a long short-sleeved wrap a chunky necklace and a snakeskin wristlet. I would have never pulled this outfit together on my own, but when I got it home it looked a lot like what I pulled from the magazine, with some of my own flair.

6) Organize your closet so you can see things.
This is especially important when it comes to accessories.  I have hooks in my closet to hang my necklaces in plain view, my shoes are in the open, and I hang up most of what I own.  This decision resulted in having my husband use the closet upstairs, but it works for us.  Don't forget the "don't use it, get rid of it" rule here.  In order to have space, you can't accumulate too much stuff. If you have too much stuff and can't see what you have, you wont use it.  Because my space is somewhat limited, I also put seasonal items such as boots and scarves away when the weather changes.

7) No matter how cheap it is, if you don't love it, don't buy it.
It's tempting to think of the amount of money you will save when you hit the clearance rack.  However, it doesn't help to spend money on anything if you don't use it. Rather than buying 3 shirts on sale for a deal, spend a little more on the one you love and that you will wear all the time.

8) Make the investment when it's worth it.
I like to look at it like this.  I bought a few Juicy Couture tracksuits last year.  They cost me entirely more than I wanted to spend.  I know they hold up well though and I love them.  You can dress them up or down.  I made the investment and I have worn them hundreds of times.  Compare that to an item you spend a lot on and only wear once every few months.  unless you are dressing for a special occasion and want to splurge, spend your money on the things you will use the most.

9) Make a fashion resolution.
Just like in loosing weight and changing eating patterns, developing a fashion sense and style takes time.  Pick something you like, or want to do better with your style and commit to doing it.  Let me give you an example.  Four years ago I never wore heels.  I just didn't see the practicality.  I always admired women who wore them though since they looked so elegant and stylish.  I resolved to buy heels and wear them at least once a month.  I felt terribly out of place in them at first.  Now, I can't seem to get enough of them!

10) Less is more.
This rule pertains to shopping.  It's tempting to go to stores that are the size of Costco with deep discounts, but when you are working on developing style, I think it best to start at a manageable level.  The more choices you have, the more confusing it gets.  Riffling through rack after messy rack can get very overwhelming and frustrating.  You can find yourself shopping for a very long time and walking out with nothing to show for it.  Start at a smaller well-organized store with good customer service.  Ask for assistance, pick a few things and try on.  You are more likely to find something that suits you.

Hopefully following these tips will get you started on the right track to finding your style, or even re-making your style.  Remember, at the end of the day, make a statement with your style, but also with your smile.  Wear them both well and you'll leave a lasting impression.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Daily Nutrition: 12 Strategies that Work

When I started my journey to health all of the daily eating plans I saw seemed a little overwhelming.  I wasn't willing to jump right from my delicious diet to egg whites, quinoa, plain Greek yogurt and ground turkey overnight.  I wanted my transformation to be a lifestyle change, something I could live with long term.  I'm glad I did it that way, the results came slow but I didn't fail. 

When asked now about my eating habits I typically shy away from the question.  Unless you have worked hard at eating right for a long time the diet I adhere to would be daunting, particularly now that I am eating to prepare for competition, and not just to live a healthy lifestyle.  I'm very glad I didn't try to adapt to the diet I am on now two years ago, I would have failed.  All things come in good time.

I'm not a dietitian, nor a nutritionist, but I do know what worked for me.  When discussing diet I'm asked a lot about how I did it, what worked, and those are some of the things I'll share.  I've given these tips to a number of people and have seen them have success.  I hope some work for you.

Tip #1
Apply ONE tip at a time!  Don't do them all at once.  Give yourself time to adjust and you will have a better chance at success.

Tip #2
Stop going through the drive-thru.  Allow yourself the freedom to eat your regular foods, but just commit to not ordering fast food anymore.  It is just as easy to run into the store and grab an apple and a yogurt as it is to go through the drive-thru. 

Tip #3
Don't EVER be without food! Always carry a few snacks in your bag.  Ideas include 100 calorie bags of almonds, a banana, a protein bar or drink, an apple, turkey jerky or a pack of instant oatmeal.  You will always at some point find yourself hungry, and if you have something with you then you are more likely to eat that.  Plus, studies show when we allow ourselves to get too hungry we over eat.  Why wait, eat it before you need it!

Tip #3
Drink water!  Enough said.  It's non-negotiable.

Tip #4
Pack your lunch.  How many times have you found yourself at an event, been hungry and eaten what is being served?  I always use the example of taking my kids to birthday parties at Pump It Up and staring at the pizza.  The pizza they provide is not good, it's really not.  If I am eating pizza, it better be worth the calorie hit!  I always bring a snack or meal with me so when everyone is eating I have something too, even if I don't think I'll be hungry.  My snack prevents me from "wasting" calories. 

Tip #5
Read labels.  I'm not saying you can't have something, just know exactly what you are putting in your body. (Look at the calories, the saturated/trans fat, and sodium as you get started). Quit frankly, some things amaze me with their poor nutritional content, others are pretty good bang for the buck. 
Tip #6
Eat In.  The reality is, chances are even the healthiest things on the menu at restaurants are far less superior to what you would make yourself.  If you have to eat out, opt for restaurants that will cook to order or offer fresh fruit and vegetable selections.  If you really enjoy going out, resolve to eat something before you go, so you can share a dish, or just have an appetizer.

Tip #7
Look up nutritional content online.  A lot of restaurants post their information.  In addition, many times you can ask for a nutritional guide.  Educate yourself on the choices.  Finally, many restaurants will cook to order. McDonald's, not so much, but they will hold the ketchup, which is very high in sugar.

Tip #8
Eat every two hours, and only enough to last you about 2 hours.  You should never feel full, but you should also never feel hungry.  Once you are really hungry, you've missed your opportunity.  Don't let yourself get to that point.

Tip #9
Keep a food journal.  Write down everything that goes in your mouth for a week and be honest.  Three handfuls of your kid's gummy bears, bite of chicken nugget, a handful of cheese-its, 5 sticks of gum.  We don't always count these as foods we eat during the day, but they add up.

Tip #10
Always eat breakfast!  Put something in your mouth with one hour of waking up, preferably sooner.  Breakfast kick starts your metabolism.  When I talked to people about weight lose one of the first questions I usually ask is do you eat breakfast.  The answer is almost always no.  I can relate, I never ate breakfast either before I started working on my eating habits.  Oh, and by the way, coffee does not count as breakfast.

Tip #11
As a general rule of thumb, I try to remember not to drink my calories.  People are more satisfied when they have something to eat (e.g. - swap orange juice for oranges).  Here's a tough one to follow, this rule includes alcohol.  The bottom line, if you want to get healthy and loose weight, you can't drink every night.  Try limiting yourself to a few times a week and limit what you drink on those night.  When ordering, opt for wine when you can.  Studies show wine has some health benefits.  Fruity, sweet alcoholic drinks pack tons of calories.  Limit then to the very occasional treat. 

Tip #12
Begin to slowly transition your food choices.  Here are the common ones I tackled one at a time.
*From white carbs to whole wheat (e.g., bread, pasta, tortillas, rice).
*From salted nuts to unsalted.
*From yogurt, to Greek yogurt (Chobani was my preferred for a long time), to plain Greek yogurt (plain Greek yogurt seems to be easier to eat with some fresh fruit, or honey mixed in).  I think Fage total 0% gets the gold standard, but Trader Joe's makes one that has added fiber that seems to taste a little better.
*From flavored beverages (e.g., lattes, teas), to sugar free drinks.  Then slowly cut down the amount of sugar-free syrup or add-ins.
*From ANYTHING canned to fresh, especially when it comes to vegetables. 
*From eating any fruit you want to choosing berries first.
* From baked potatoes to sweet potatoes or yams.
*From butter, to non-fat no calorie spraybutter to no butter at all.
*From liquid sauces you marinate meats and poultry in to salt-free seasoning or lemon juice.
*From dressing, to low-fat dressings, to vinegar.  If nothing else, make this one thing you resolve to do.  Dressings can be ridiculously high in calories.  Also, try putting dressing on the side and dip your fork as you eat.  Chances are you will eat much less of the dressing.  I also think making salads using things like salsa or nonfat cottage cheese on them add moisture while still keeping the calories low.
*From soda to water. A tough one!  Start by just cutting back on soda slowly.
*From peanut butter to natural peanut butter to natural, organic, salt-free peanut butter.
*From ice cream to frozen yogurt.
*From any cereal to something high in fiber and low in sugar (Kashi Go Lean is my favorite).
*From regular chocolate to dark chocolate.
*From adding toppings such as chocolate on desserts to adding fruit.
*From full-fat dairy to non-fat dairy items.
*From beef to chicken (I have a rule at home.  I eat red meat, but only as an occasional treat when I am out to eat.  I never cook it at home ). 
*From regular lunch meats to higher quality low sodium lunch meats, then  possibly to no lunch meat (substitute chicken or fish you make at home).
*From items with ingredients you cannot pronounce to items with one ingredient.
*From pre-packaged lunches like Lean Cuisine to items you make or prepare.  Pre-packaged lunches market themselves as low calorie and good for you but in reality they rarely are.  They extremely high in sodium and highly processed. 

Finally, and I really can't stress this enough.  Do these one at a time.  If you are going to aim to take foods out of your diet, take one out at a time.  Allow yourself room for set-backs and indulgences.  Incorporate exercise into your routine.  That paired with diet changes are the best way to getting healthy.  To this day I can't figure it out, but when I exercise, I crave better foods, and I typically eat less.

A lot of the tips I share here I picked up from friends along the way.  If you have ideas I'd love to hear them.  I'm always looking for new snack ideas and healthy eating tips.  Good luck in getting started, and if you are already started, let me know how your journey is going!

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

The Road to Health

A blog, an open journal of sorts, how scary right?  I don't know where to start, I tell the people close to me.  "Well why are you doing it", they ask?  To which I respond, "because I think it might help someone, and it will help me to put my journey on paper".  Well then if that's what your goal is, start at the beginning and talk about what's important to you.  Start at the place that mattered the most, the turning point.  "Okay," I think.  Here goes....

In the beginning, my goal was to lose weight, look better, and be healthy.  Two kids, 40 pounds later... yep, it's about that time.  There's nothing more daunting than the overwhelming goal of taking care of you, especially as a mom. You're going through life and suddenly you find yourself responsible for one, two, maybe more people.  Taking care of yourself takes back seat.  That's okay, it happens to the best of us.  Eventually though we remember that we matter, and we have to take care of ourselves, in a way that makes us feel human again.  For me, that was getting back in shape.

I remember the realization I had sitting on the coach, completely exhausted, drenched in spit-up, watching Days of Our Lives, thinking I have to get back to me! I looked around at the people I respected, moms who seemed to have it all together, happy, in-shape, well rounded and thought, how the hell am I going to get there? I guess at the time the first mistake I made was looking at the big picture, rather than thinking of taking one step. 

I finally decided I was going to start by running one mile.  That was the goal.  I strapped on my running shoes, went to Target to buy some shorts, because remember I had two young children, NOTHING fit, and I set off around the block.

The run went well for the first three minutes, and then it sucked!!!!  “Why does anyone actually do this?” I thought to myself! I considered turning around and chalking this up to a bad idea.  Thinking back when I finished I probably went home and ate a gallon of ice cream as a reward for my hard work!  Nevertheless, it was a step.  For those of you who know me well, you know where it lead. 

I've learned over time to love running, to love fitness, but it didn't start that way 5 years ago.  Now when I run I do my best thinking.  People ask me nearly every day about running.  They want to do it but they dislike it.  It grows on you, I always say, it really does.  Some days I smile running, some days I reflect, and some days I cry.  It fills me though and gives me perspective.  It reminds me I am responsible for 2 other people and if I want to do a good job at that I'd better put the oxygen mask on myself first.
  
Remembering back to where I started reminded me that it's never too late to be who you could have been, or want to be.  It starts with one step, one foot in front of the other.  It's a slow process.  If you go into it knowing that, and give yourself adequate time, you'll be successful.  It's very easy to get frustrated when you don't see immediate results, whether it be with running, weight loss, or fitness in general.  Don't look at the scale.  Don't time yourself at first.  Just go out and try something.  Surround yourself with people who believe in you, find a role model, or a few, and take a step.  For me, that was around the block.  That block turned into 2 miles, then to 5, then to 15, and on to racing and now competing.  Most importantly, the step brought me back, slowly but surely. 

What goals do you have for yourself?  What are the risks involved?  Are you willing to be patient, to wait for the results?  What happens if you fail?  How will that feel?  These are all questions I ask myself on a regular basis.  It seems to help me to think about fitness in this way.  There's always a risk involved.  Then again, there's always the chance that I might inspire someone along the way.  I guess that makes the risk worth it.